Communicating feelings and thought varies with people, Not everyone finds communicating their feelings easy or having it come naturally. While some category of people have the hardest time communicating their emotions. Everyone at one time or another in their life may find it difficult to say how they feel.
Learning why you find it difficult to communicate your thought and express your feelings can go a long way in helping you adjust and changing the unhealthy behaviour. Saying how you feel, disclosing your view and opinion is something you can learn how to do. Here are top reasons why people find it difficult to express their emotions to someone else.
Fear of Disapproval and Rejection
A lot of people’s extreme fear of disapproval and rejection is influenced by social learning and conditioning. From an early age you may have had negative experiences of rejection and disapproval. Thus, causing the fear of showing who you are, communicating with people or revealing your true personality, because it could mean more judgment and rejection. You are so terrified by rejection and ending up alone that you would rather swallow your feelings. You are afraid that people would not like you if you expressed your thoughts and feelings. Then you live to learn acting or not communicating your thought is the best way not to get rejected from the people around you.
Fear of Conflict
Very often you lack the confidence to start a conversation, you are not quite sure of your ability to guide conversations in a productive way. The Fear of conflict are accompanied with the thought of people getting angry at you, taking advantage of you, the inability to stand for yourself. You are afraid of angry feelings or conflicts with people.
You may believe that people with good relationships should not engage in verbal “fights” or intense arguments. More importantly, you believe that disclosing your thoughts and feelings to those you care about would result in discrimination, you are not ready to take responsibility.
A passive-aggressive behaviour takes many forms but can generally be described as a non-verbal aggression that manifests in negative behavior. It is where you are angry with someone but do not or cannot tell them. It is mainly characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation.
You pout and hold your hurt or angry feelings inside instead of disclosing what you feel. You give others the silent treatment, which is inappropriate, and a common strategy to elicit feelings of guilt (on their part).
A person with low self-esteem feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent. In fact, because the person with low self-esteem feels and thinks so poorly about him or herself, these feelings may actually cause the person’s continued low self-esteem
They are more likely to experience social anxiety and low levels of interpersonal confidence. People with low self esteem often believe they are not entitled to express their feelings or to ask others for what they want. You think you should always please other people and meet their expectations without regard for how you feel or your thought.
Anxiety and Emotional Perfectionist