Sexual urge is a normal part of human nature. However, these feelings can sometimes interfere with daily life and relationships, sometimes in a very detrimental way. Finding ways to control your sexual urges may help you improve your quality of life, your relationships, and your productivity.
If you feel your sexual urges are negatively impacting your life, below are few tips to help you overcome it.
1. GET OUT OF YOUR CURRENT ENVIRONMENT.
Try to step away from any environment where you feel it’s difficult to control your urges. If you are at home and feeling a compulsion to masturbate, try taking a quick walk. If you can’t leave your current environment, probably you are at work, try talking to another coworker or taking a break.
IDENTIFY THE TRIGGERS FOR YOUR SEXUAL URGES.
Spend some time thinking about your behavior and what leads you to have sexual impulses. Think about triggering stimuli, the time of day, as well as the environment in which you tend to have these urges. Try to discover the pattern.
If you have discovered a pattern, figure out how you can break the cycle with new behaviours or lifestyle changes. For example, you may notice that you feel most overwhelmed with sexual urges in the evenings and on weekends, when you are not working and don’t have anything to do. You may decide to take up a new hobby in order to keep your mind off sex.
MAKE A LIST OF ALL OF THE NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR BEHAVIOUR.
Making a list of all the risks or negative consequences associated with the behaviour may help to stave off sexual urges as well. Write down all of the risks and potential consequences of acting on your behaviour. Carry the list with you at all times and review it when you experience a sexual urge.
Pornography aids sexual urge, it is best to avoid viewing it if you are prone to troublesome sexual urges. Throw away any pornographic magazines, books, or movies you may have.
You may wish to avoid masturbating for a set amount of time to help you get your sexual urges under control. For some people, abstaining from masturbation may be more important than for others. You may seek suggestions about what would be appropriate for you from a therapist.
KEEP YOURSELF BUSY.
Staying busy helps keep your mind preoccupied and focused on things other than sex. Take up a new hobby or fill your social calendar with activities with friends. Channel your sexual energy into a creative project. Taking a “negative” or unwanted emotion and turn it into something more positive or useful.
Find a hobby that takes you away from triggering stimuli. If you have a tendency to view porn at home alone, find a hobby that takes you out of the house and surrounds you with people, so that you are not in a triggering environment.
ABSTAIN FROM DRUGS OR ALCOHOL.
Drugs and alcohol can cause you to lose your inhibitions, including your sexual control. Stay away from parties and scenarios you think might be problematic. Being under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol makes it more likely that you will engage in risky sexual activity.
Sometimes obsessive thoughts tend to creep up on you when you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed. If you find this to be true for you with your sexual urges, figure out ways you can live a less stressful life. Also you may find yourself obsessively thinking about sex on days when you are running late for work. Experiment with earlier wake-up times or allowing extra commute time to see if your thought patterns change.
SEE YOUR DOCTOR.
Consider having a check up to rule out any physical problems that may be causing your sexual urges. Sometimes, illness or disorders can disrupt hormones and can make you feel hyper-sexual. You may have to see a psychologist or a psychiatrist to get evaluated for any mood disorder.
TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS.