Relationships are so tricky, sometimes we are so deep in the middle of the drama that we can’t see the damage it is doing until it is too late. There are some that are lucky to learn from past relationships, but others might be repeating the cycle, not even realizing that they are doing so.
We stay in a relationship with the hope that things will improve and we even go to extremes trying to save what we have. We want to hold on to our relationship at all costs. Being in love is powerful. When we’re in love, our partner seems more attractive and more desirable in our eyes than they really are. Think about it, we’ve all dated someone only to look back years later and wonder what we were thinking.
You need to know when to end a relationship, no matter how much you feel you should protect it. Here are few signs to indicate it’s time to end a relationship:
Abuse might be simply obvious, but when one is deeply into a relationship, they find explanations for it. They offer up a variety of excuses that justifies the abuse, as if any justification would make it okay. Whether it’s the first time or the tenth, physical abuse is never acceptable and is only an indication of future trouble and heartache. Do not endure it, break it.
WHEN IT TAKES TOO MUCH EFFORT
If everything about the relationship requires too much effort, you may have already given up on it. If date nights, celebrations, and even staying in feels like an inconvenience, it may be that the relationship is inconvenient. Recognize an end when it takes excessive efforts to make things work out.
WHEN THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION ARE BLOCKED
A strong relationship can’t exist without solid, free-flowing communication. It’s important to be comfortable talking about the tough subjects. The inability to connect or have a good conversation with your partner is a clear indication that it’s time to end a relationship. If communication is being avoided for fear of certain types of reactions then the relationship is not good enough.
WHEN THEY HAVE ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOUR
It doesn’t matter the type of addiction, if it has infected the relationship, and they aren’t willing to stop the behaviour, then the relationship is over. There is another relationship getting in the way, and that is between the other person and their addictive behaviour and it’s in both parties best interest to walk away.
A LACK OF RESPECT
Mutual respect for each other, even in the face of disagreement, is necessary to keep the lines of communication open and for both parties to feel safe, secure and loved. If respect is lacking, and there is a constant feeling of being under attack, it might be time to call it quits.
WHEN YOUR FEELINGS HAVE CHANGED
As we grow and evolve as individuals, the goal is to grow and evolve as a couple as well, but, unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. If one person’s feelings are moving from romantic to platonic, it’s time to change the status of the relationship.
WHEN YOU NOTICE DECEITFUL BEHAVIOUR
Whether it’s lying, cheating, or omitting information, a pattern of deceitful behavior is an indication that there is trouble. Of course, everyone makes mistakes, but when a pattern becomes evident, that’s when questioning the relationship should begin.
WHEN THERE IS AN ABSENCE OF EMOTION
If the relationship is based on physical attraction without an emotional investment, the relationship will eventually come to an end. It’s important that both partners are invested equally for the relationship to survive.
WHEN THERE IS EXCESS DRAMA
If there is always an issue or crisis, stop feeding into it and consider that this may not be the healthiest of relationships. Excess drama happens when someone is seeking attention, and that means they are looking for something that they most likely will not find in any relationship, much less the one they are in.
WHEN THERE IS AN UNEQUAL PARTNERSHIP
If one person seems to be more in control in the relationship, then it isn’t really in a relationship. A relationship is give and take with each person contributing and supporting the relationship in different roles at different times. If one person remains on a pedestal, it may be time for the other to find a relationship where they are valued as an equal partner.