Abuse is the improper usage or treatment of an entity, often to unfairly or improperly gain benefit. Abuse can come in many forms, such as: physical or verbal maltreatment, injury, assault, violation, rape, unjust practices, crimes, or other types of aggression. Sexual abuse is an unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent.
Sexual abuse, also referred to as molestation, is usually undesired sexual behavior by one person upon another. When force is immediate, of short duration, or infrequent, it is called sexual assault.
The offender is referred to as a sexual abuser, or (often pejoratively) molester. The term also covers any behavior by an adult or older adolescent towards a child to stimulate any of the involved sexually.
Rape is a form of sexual abuse. Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person’s consent.
The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent.
She is just a victim who never begged for rape but forced against her consent, subjecting her to fear and depression. The fear of stigmatization keeps her from sharing her experience most especially with her spouse as she is unsure of the reactions to follow. She is just a victim, the blame lies with the perpetrators. All you need to do as a spouse is to support her and give her reasons to live again.
Today, so many young ladies and children are victims of rape and are often subjected to a state of depression. The stigma of being a rape victim can make survivors feel as if they are getting raped all over again. A rape survivor who shares her experience might be faced with reactions of utter discomfort. Thereby restraining rape victims from sharing their experience, with spouse, family or public.
There is a need for the society to make life bearable for rape survivors, there is the role we all have to play to encourage them. As a rape survivor: You should be able to share your experience with your spouse based on the kind of understanding that exists between you and your spouse. There should be the proper study of how your spouse reacts to such experiences, you can start by telling your spouse about a rape victim to be sure of his reactions.
As a spouse of a rape victim, you can support her by listening and showing that you are listening. Let them stay in control, they desire to be in charge of their lives again after the experience, respect their decisions. Reassure them, respect their wishes and be patient with them.
It is important to believe they are saying even if it is difficult for you to hear, remember it is not their fault. Don’t judge them, the blame lies with the perpetrators, no one begs to be raped.
Emergency contraceptive medications are offered to women raped by men because about 5% of such rapes result in pregnancy. Preventative medication against sexually transmitted infections are given to victims of all types of sexual abuse (especially for the most common diseases like chlamydia, gonorrhea, trichomoniasis and bacterial vaginosis) and a blood serum is collected to test for STIs (such as HIV, hepatitis B and syphilis).
Any survivor with abrasions are immunized for tetanus if 5 years have elapsed since the last immunization. Short-term treatment with a benzodiazepine may help with acute anxiety and antidepressants may be helpful for symptoms of PTSD, depression and panic attacks.
Say no to sexual abuse, say no to Rape. Rape survivors are as human as anyone in the society and they deserve to be treated right, do not judge them, they are only victims, the blame lies with the perpetrators.